“Whether or not you count this as being under the BDSM umbrella is up to you,” Little adds. So long as all partners consent and enjoy these moments, this is A-OK, says Callie Little, a sex and relationships educator and writer. There are thousands of little moments within more “traditional” sex that may invoke elements of submission and dominance or power play. Or calls you “greedy” or “my slut” or “little girl.” Or or or or… MomentsĪ partner pins your arms behind your back during doggy. Generally speaking, in the most traditional form of BDSM play, there’s a submissive who consensually “gives up to control” (note the quotations!) to the Dominant.īut considering almost half of the general population has tried some form of BDSM in their lives, it’s safe to say submission doesn’t have one #lewk.